Break Free From Assumptions & Misaligned Rules

Breaking free from assumptions and misaligned rules is a multi-layered process. We all have rules for how we believe we are supposed to do life. They are tied to our values, to societal norms, and the stories we’ve been told about who we are and the way the world is. Since we do not exist outside of a societal context, we must acknowledge the influence of societal stories as we engage our own programing. First, looking at the rules for the roles that we occupy and whether they fit who you are or who you want to be. Then looking at where they feed the assumptions you make about yourself and others and how those assumptions influence your actions. You don’t have to know exactly where you started making assumptions or changed who you are to fit in. You only need a process to step out of those assumptions and reclaim who you want to be. 

In this episode of Unlimited, I acknowledge the layers of stories influencing us and explore how we as individuals unpack our own assumptions and misaligned rules.

Some of what I talk about in this episode includes:

  • Who do you think you are?
  • The relationship between self and society
  • Why we make assumptions
  • Ways to stop making assumptions
  • The importance of intentional, diverse community

Fearing The Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia
How the Word Is Passed: A Reckoning with the History of Slavery Across America
The Four Agreements

A Roundtable to Improve Your Perception with Aleia Walker
What’s Killing My Motivation?
No, You’re Not Crazy
You’re More Than Your Personality Test
Girl, Learn to Apologize
Stop Being Nice and Start Being Resilient
How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding

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