How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding

How to stop reacting and start responding starts with understanding that internal reactivity is normal. It happens when your brain perceives a threat. That internal reaction doesn’t differentiate between a real or imagined threat or between an emotional or physical threat. Some of our most common reactivity comes from a perceived threat to our values. When this happens it’s important to first acknowledge that there’s nothing wrong with you that you’ve had a reaction. The stories we’ve internalized about reactivity being bad or wrong can actually make us more reactive. Second, take some time to understand the values at play in your reaction. Understanding your core values, engaging them, and cultivating your consciously chosen values allows you to become more mindfully responsive and slowly shift those internal reactions.

In today’s episode of Unlimited, I explore how values awareness can help you shift from reacting to responding.

Some of what I talk about in this episode includes:

  • Meeting yourself where you’re at
  • Why we worry
  • “Mom guilt”
  • Finding choices
  • Improving relationships – especially with yourself

We tend to become more reactive the more stress we are experiencing in life. Though I don’t reference them in this episode, you may find it helpful to check out the following episodes for additional support around stress and making plans in times of uncertainty.

Understanding Your Stress Language

Navigating the Obstacles to Rest

Can I Make Plans Yet

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